#478. Why You Keep Repeating Painful Patterns | Radhule Weininger

We all have long-standing painful patterns of behavior or inner storylines that can cause us to react disproportionately or inappropriately to everyday events.  

Today's guest, Dr. Radhule Weininger, has a term for this. She calls them longstanding recurrent painful patterns or LRPPs. 

Weininger is a clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, and teacher of Buddhist meditation and Buddhist psychology. She has a new book, Heart Medicine: How to Stop Painful Patterns and Find Peace and Freedom—at Last.

Content Warnings: There are some brief references to sensitive tops, including physical abuse, sexual abuse and suicide.

In this episode we talk about:

• How to recognize a problematic pattern or when you’ve been “lrpp-ed”
• Why Dr. Weininger believes that Buddhism and western psychology, when practiced together, can help us deal with these recurring patterns
• Unpacking the word trauma
• The psychological term “mismatch” and how it relates to childhood trauma or hurt
• And how to practice meditation in order to tolerate discomfort

Where to find Radhule Weininger online: 

Website: radhuleweiningerphd.com

Social Media:

• Facebook
• Instagram

Books Mentioned:

• Heart Medicine: How to Stop Painful Patterns and Find Peace and Freedom—at Last
• The Energy of Prayer: How to Deepen Your Spiritual Practice
• The Plague

Other Resources Mentioned:

• Mindful Heart Programs
• Jack Kornfield
• More on sankhara
• More on samskara
• Jon Kabat-Zinn
• Spirit Rock
• Michael Vincent Miller
• More on Brahmaviharas
• More on Vajrayana
• More on Saint Augustine 
• More on Bodhicitta
• More on Parker J. Palmer and the tragic gap
• More on Dzogchen and Mahamudra
• Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche
• Tsoknyi Rinpoche
• Dr. Daniel Brown
• Dustin DiPerna
• Loch Kelly